I now realize that my happiness, success and well-being only comes from one person...and that is me.
By not seeking approval outside myself, I now realize that I already have it. I am the source of my own approval. I am that which I seek.
I, alone, determine my worth and I allow others to determine their own worth.
I am willing to release the need to gain approval from others, even those in positions of authority. I choose not to manipulate their perception of me and allow myself to be who I truly am in their presence.
Anxiously focusing on others' approval or disapproval allows me only to be absent from myself. I choose to be present and honor my thoughts and feelings for the highest good of all involved.
I now define my own success. No one can give it to me, no one can take it from me.
I choose to look beyond ego in others and to become aware of the spirit in us that is constantly connected.
Today, I choose to listen to understand, instead of pretending to be interested in order to impress. I choose to be present for myself and for others.
UnTuNe
I can almost see it
That dream I’m dreaming but
There’s a voice inside my head saying,
You’ll never reach it,
Every step I’m taking,
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking but I
I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high
There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an up-hill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb
The struggles I’m facing
The chances I’m taking
Sometimes might knock me down but
No I’m not breaking
*I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I’m gonna remember most yeah
Just gotta keep going
And I, I gotta be strong
Just keep pushing on
That dream I’m dreaming but
There’s a voice inside my head saying,
You’ll never reach it,
Every step I’m taking,
Every move I make feels
Lost with no direction
My faith is shaking but I
I gotta keep trying
Gotta keep my head held high
There's always gonna be another mountain
I'm always gonna wanna make it move
Always gonna be an up-hill battle
Sometimes I'm gonna have to lose
Ain't about how fast I get there
Ain't about what's waiting on the other side
It's the climb
The struggles I’m facing
The chances I’m taking
Sometimes might knock me down but
No I’m not breaking
*I may not know it
But these are the moments that
I’m gonna remember most yeah
Just gotta keep going
And I, I gotta be strong
Just keep pushing on
Lasting Time
Somebody hit my bike
As if I needed that right now.
And I'm pretty sure he did it on purpose. I could be wrong, of course, but talking to him afterward, I got the distinct impression that he thought that a hard-working pickup driving salt-of-the-earth kinda man should not have to share the road with a young guy in a [_____], and a little bump was just what I needed.
His bike was barely scratched. Judging by the 1600 bill the last time I got a few repairs done, the dents in mine are going to cost me a fortune. Maybe his (or my) insurance will pay for it, but it has already been a colossal hassle. I'm annoyed.
In other, much better, news,Friends planned for a GOa tour.thanks for them, but I can't afford it right now, but I really want to go. I have a couple trips within Madurai that I've been wanting to do (Kodaikanal at the top ) but I feel like those can be done more spur-of-the-moment when a great fare pops up, because the friends I want to see will always be there no matter when I go. I would only do broad if a friend asked me. I haven't taken a day off work , so I should probably do it.
Also, this friend would be AMAZING to travel with. He is one of those peoples who soaks up experiences and really appreciates life. He'd savor the food. He'd want to run up a hill and spread out his arms and sing. they'd want to explore the little alleys and visit the local shops where the owner only speaks tamil. He's never been outta chennai , so it would be wonderful to see KK through his fresh eyes.
As if I needed that right now.
And I'm pretty sure he did it on purpose. I could be wrong, of course, but talking to him afterward, I got the distinct impression that he thought that a hard-working pickup driving salt-of-the-earth kinda man should not have to share the road with a young guy in a [_____], and a little bump was just what I needed.
His bike was barely scratched. Judging by the 1600 bill the last time I got a few repairs done, the dents in mine are going to cost me a fortune. Maybe his (or my) insurance will pay for it, but it has already been a colossal hassle. I'm annoyed.
In other, much better, news,Friends planned for a GOa tour.thanks for them, but I can't afford it right now, but I really want to go. I have a couple trips within Madurai that I've been wanting to do (Kodaikanal at the top ) but I feel like those can be done more spur-of-the-moment when a great fare pops up, because the friends I want to see will always be there no matter when I go. I would only do broad if a friend asked me. I haven't taken a day off work , so I should probably do it.
Also, this friend would be AMAZING to travel with. He is one of those peoples who soaks up experiences and really appreciates life. He'd savor the food. He'd want to run up a hill and spread out his arms and sing. they'd want to explore the little alleys and visit the local shops where the owner only speaks tamil. He's never been outta chennai , so it would be wonderful to see KK through his fresh eyes.
Setting Boundaries
“He who controls others may be powerful, but he who has mastered himself is mightier still.”
No one likes to be told what to do. That’s just a plain and simple fact. Our egos bristle at it. Our minds resist it. So when someone draws a line in the sand sending the message, “you may not cross this line”, there is a small part of us that says, “Oh, is that so?” That’s what makes establishing boundaries feel like a frustrating power struggle. But what if there was a more effective way to establish healthy boundaries? Establishing boundaries are more for setting a standard for what works and what doesn’t work in your personal universe. When a person says or does something to violate your standards for healthy interaction, you learn about them. That is their behavior. They teach you, “this is how I treat you and this is how you can treat me.” And when they do that behavior again and it is tolerated, you have set the standard. You have basically done it to yourself.
If someone says or does something that doesn’t feel right or isn’t what you define as healthy, it is more effective to set the boundary for yourself regarding whether or not you will allow it in your life again. This provides you the opportunity to ask yourself some tough questions such as, “If this person behaves in this manner again, what will my response be? Can I remove myself from the situation? Would I be willing to distance myself from that person while they engage in that behavior?” There is the option to ask the person to stop their behavior. Remember, however, that this gives them the opportunity to answer either way. They can say yes, or they can say no. How will you respond if they say no? What about if they say yes, but then do it again anyway (saying no with their actions)? Aha! That’s the crux. Setting a boundary is only half of the equation. Honoring the boundary is the other half. Who is more likely to honor your own boundary? You? Or them? Who do you have more control over, yourself or others? There is only one person you can effectively set boundaries for…and that is you.
“No matter how famous the victim, no matter how powerful the advocates, it simply isn't always possible to control the conduct of other people.”
No one likes to be told what to do. That’s just a plain and simple fact. Our egos bristle at it. Our minds resist it. So when someone draws a line in the sand sending the message, “you may not cross this line”, there is a small part of us that says, “Oh, is that so?” That’s what makes establishing boundaries feel like a frustrating power struggle. But what if there was a more effective way to establish healthy boundaries? Establishing boundaries are more for setting a standard for what works and what doesn’t work in your personal universe. When a person says or does something to violate your standards for healthy interaction, you learn about them. That is their behavior. They teach you, “this is how I treat you and this is how you can treat me.” And when they do that behavior again and it is tolerated, you have set the standard. You have basically done it to yourself.
If someone says or does something that doesn’t feel right or isn’t what you define as healthy, it is more effective to set the boundary for yourself regarding whether or not you will allow it in your life again. This provides you the opportunity to ask yourself some tough questions such as, “If this person behaves in this manner again, what will my response be? Can I remove myself from the situation? Would I be willing to distance myself from that person while they engage in that behavior?” There is the option to ask the person to stop their behavior. Remember, however, that this gives them the opportunity to answer either way. They can say yes, or they can say no. How will you respond if they say no? What about if they say yes, but then do it again anyway (saying no with their actions)? Aha! That’s the crux. Setting a boundary is only half of the equation. Honoring the boundary is the other half. Who is more likely to honor your own boundary? You? Or them? Who do you have more control over, yourself or others? There is only one person you can effectively set boundaries for…and that is you.
“No matter how famous the victim, no matter how powerful the advocates, it simply isn't always possible to control the conduct of other people.”
Great Affirmations for Releasing Limiting Beliefs
It is safe for me to release the imaginary constraints I have placed on my life.
The world is full of opportunity. I now realize that it is safe for me to examine each limiting belief my mind tries to sell me.
When I think back to my childhood, I realize that I once had a set of rules that worked for me. As I reached different ages, I outgrew certain rules.
There was once a time when I was not allowed to cross the street by myself. At a certain period in my life, this rule and others had value. But as I have grown older, I have let go of unnecessary restrictions.
Boundaries that were once useful to me may no longer be helpful in my current circumstances. As I encounter new stages of my life, I make changes to accommodate the wise and capable person I have become.
I no longer need to feel confined to certain limitations. In order to grow, I adjust my thinking and change the restrictions I once placed on myself.
Holding onto limiting beliefs does not serve me, so I am unafraid to shake off these restrictions. Releasing these constraints allows me a full spectrum of choices for my life.
I am liberated to move freely and reach out for bolder choices when I let go of unnecessary constraints. My unbound hands can embrace new truths and new goals.
When I release imaginary constraints, I can see that countless possibilities exist. Seeing a world of opportunity unlimited by constraints is thrilling.
There is comfort in my freedom. I am able to move forward with my life in any direction I choose. I am emboldened to live the life I only dreamt of before.
The world is full of opportunity. I now realize that it is safe for me to examine each limiting belief my mind tries to sell me.
When I think back to my childhood, I realize that I once had a set of rules that worked for me. As I reached different ages, I outgrew certain rules.
There was once a time when I was not allowed to cross the street by myself. At a certain period in my life, this rule and others had value. But as I have grown older, I have let go of unnecessary restrictions.
Boundaries that were once useful to me may no longer be helpful in my current circumstances. As I encounter new stages of my life, I make changes to accommodate the wise and capable person I have become.
I no longer need to feel confined to certain limitations. In order to grow, I adjust my thinking and change the restrictions I once placed on myself.
Holding onto limiting beliefs does not serve me, so I am unafraid to shake off these restrictions. Releasing these constraints allows me a full spectrum of choices for my life.
I am liberated to move freely and reach out for bolder choices when I let go of unnecessary constraints. My unbound hands can embrace new truths and new goals.
When I release imaginary constraints, I can see that countless possibilities exist. Seeing a world of opportunity unlimited by constraints is thrilling.
There is comfort in my freedom. I am able to move forward with my life in any direction I choose. I am emboldened to live the life I only dreamt of before.
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